I remember the first day of working out I wasn’t able to do 20 jumping jacks. It’s so embarrassing, but that’s how unhealthy and out of shape I was.
For some reason, I thought it was ok to remain fat and unhealthy.
I thought my friends and family loved the way I was. No one had a problem with my roundness. I thought I was cute on some days with my round cheeks. I mean I loved myself but I wasn’t entirely in love with my body and the way I was living.
So going back, I remember it was the first day of working out, I started listing reasons and excuses in my head to screw change and go back to what I was comfortable with, “being overweight and unhealthy". My body wasn’t use to the sweat, the tight chest, the huffing and puffing, the uncomfortable mess, but I had a strong mind. The thought of losing control of my health and being tied to a wheel chair or not being able to keep up with my future kids or being told that I had diabetes was what propelled me to persevere.
Now that I realized how committed I was with my journey, I can confidently say, I had
Know it. Learn it. Be it!
Familiarize yourself with the word. We all have it.
Willpower is self-control and it’s self-discipline. The dictionary defines it as the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.
It requires you to focus on forcing your mind to do what your body doesn’t want to do. I mean come on, it’s easy to sit on the couch and watch endless hours of reality tv than to pump iron and run your heart out on a treadmill. It’s easy to eat that juicy delicious cheeseburger than to grab a boring bland salad. It’s easy to give into temptation, period!
Luckily, willpower is a learned skill. You can actually strengthen your willpower with practice and of course patience. So the question now is: What can I do to strengthen, harness this force to help me reach my full potential?
Here are my top 5 Tips to help you with the oh so powerful word, “Willpower”
- Clarity on your “WHY”. Remember the previous article I wrote I stated, "when you’re close to your breaking point and you want to give up, pull out your 'why' card". It’s important to know your goals. What exactly do you want your life to be like and why. Gaining clarity eliminates room for negotiation and it gives you a clear sense of what you want out of your journey.
- Now I don’t like to dictate and call out ppl on their goals and “whys” but if its a shallow reason (doing this to look like a supermodel), you might want to reconsider.
- Be aware of your emotions, problems, and circumstances. Solve the problems you can and reflect on your emotions daily. I am a firm believer in journaling and in almost every posts I’ll write about the importance of documenting your life. Use your journal as a gateway to escape or solve your problems. Majority of our issues that we have are self-inflicted. We create it in our head by overthinking. However, organizing thoughts on paper can strengthen your problem solving skills and it helps you organize your thoughts which in turn can help you understand your emotions. Reflection is important because it gives you an awareness of your weaknesses and strengths, what you can improve and how you can grow which leads me to the next point.
- Take full responsibility, own up to your mistakes, be willing to pay the price, and learn and grow. There are tons of fireballs thrown at us. Life has it’s way of throwing curveballs but no matter how many rocks and stones get thrown at you, believe you can. It doesn’t matter how you were raised, what kind of environment you’re in, QUIT playing the victim, instead of looking to blame, divert your attention to how you can succeed and how you can follow through with healthy decisions and actions. Don’t feed the “victim” card but nurture your determination and willpower by remaining positive.
- Every time I would get down and beat myself up for making a mistake, I would flip the equation and focus on what was working, what I was doing right, and how far I’ve come. Give yourself credit which leads me to.
- Loving yourself enough to live a healthy lifestyle. Willpower is loving yourself enough to respect your goals. Many of us punish ourselves with strict diets or routines we don’t even like. We don’t have to whip ourselves to live miserably. It’s seriously a set up to swing in the direction of overindulgence once you’ve had enough torture.
- The secret to it all is forming habits that are healthy, fun, and pleasurable to you. We’ve been totally wrong by being conditioned to think that hard work, healthy clean foods and exercise is the devil’s world BUT it’s not. We forget that healthy habits can be enjoyable. When you find what makes you happy during your transformation, you’ll learn to love the process and in turn, it won’t be so much of a torture.
- Last, focus on improvement instead of perfection. Drop perfectionism and focus on your values. This encourages growth and improvement.
Willpower is self-control and it grows over time when practiced daily. Don’t expect to have topnotch polished willpower at the start of your journey. Take small steps, work hard, be patient.
Through every posts I hope I’ve encourage you to continuously strive, to never give up, to always be positive, and to always remain optimistic.
Have the WILL to push, to succeed, to gain POWER through overcoming challenges.
Today, FOCUS on your WILLPOWER and tell yourself,
“I AM WILLPOWER”.
Sending positive vibes your way. Thank you for reading.